You are what you do.
Every time you act, you create a habit – even if it’s a small one.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
Everything you do is practice for who you are becoming.
You are not the product of your dreams, your desires, your potential or what you could be someday, somehow, in the perfectly right environment.
You are what you do.
You are the culmination of your actions.
So that’s why it matters – not just what you do – but how you do it.
Ever notice that when you do one thing, it breeds more of itself?
When you wake up late, you start the day behind you show up late to commitments, you miss meetings, you’re constantly behind and apologizing. You’ve accepted it’s “who you are” – but it’s not – it’s just “what you’re currently doing.”
It’s who you are (at this moment).
If you tell yourself you’ll do something, but then don’t – you suddenly start not doing all the other things you promised yourself you would do.
If you happen to miss the gym, you get a little weaker, and it’s easier to miss the next one.
When you tell someone a white lie (and let’s be honest – you didn’t have to, but you were trying to be nice), it gets easier and easier to distort facts, keep expanding the lies, and worst of all – lie to yourself and distort the accurate picture of reality that you’re in.
When you cut a rep in the gym, not because you failed, but because it was hard – it gets easier to cut corners in other parts of your life, business, or relationships.
You are what you do. You become the thing you practice.
And how you do anything is how you do everything.
The good news is – it works the opposite way too.
If you tell yourself you’ll do something and you do it – you trust yourself more, and you’ll do more.
If you take a cold shower, even if you didn’t want to (especially when you didn’t want to), you find it’s easier to do hard, difficult stuff throughout the day.
If you push yourself in the gym to do an extra rep, an extra lap, to go beyond what you thought you could do, you carry that with you throughout the day.
If you’re truthful, even when it’s inconvenient, it’s easier to be truthful in other areas of life and give yourself the most accurate version of reality possible.
Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being.
And you know it deep down too.
If you take it easy in the gym, you find it easy to take easier in life.
If you cheat on a rep, you find it easier to cheat on your diet, then it’s easier to cheat on a test or cheat on yourself.
If you wimp out on a cold shower because it’s uncomfortable, all the other uncomfortable things in life will find it easier to stop you as well.
If you lie when the stakes are low, you build the habit of lying until the stakes actually do matter.
How you do anything is how you do everything.
It bleeds into your character. It molds you and before long, without even knowing it, you have become a reflection of your cumulative actions.
Everything action is something. Every action matters.
How you do anything is how you do everything.
Start acting like it.
Donna Kirby says
Dear Joel,
Thanks again, it is always a pleasure to read your latest newsletter.
I’d just like to add, the good news is, we do not need to come from outstanding family backgrounds in order to accomplish great things. If our parents did not put within us self-discipline and a desire to be goal-oriented in our thinking, we can do it ourselves.
So many people (like myself for 51 years) let their archaic upbringing dictate the limits they allow themselves to live by. We shouldn’t do that. It’s on us. We must choose to become a better version of ourselves by how we live each and every day.
But what would be the point in all this building work, if we didn’t have some redeeming goal in mind for the end? What’s your goal in all of this work you do, Joel? I’d really like to hear the answer to that one day.
As for me, how great to be able to run into someone I have not seen in several years, and have them look at me with shocked approval as they say, while mouth is aghast,…
“Is that really you??? Wow, you look so great!!! I didn’t even recognize you!!! I can’t believe it’s you!! What have you been doing with yourself???”
That’s one of my biggest motivators, to be able to run into someone and knock their socks off, someone who used to look at me in with a hint of dismay in their demeanor, as if to say, “Oh, isn’t it just too bad she didn’t make anything of herself after that awful divorce?…”
I want to be able to blow people away and leave them guessing as I cheerfully acknowledge their good wishes, then quickly glance down at my watch and say, “Oh no, look at the time, … well nice to see you, so sorry, I’ve got drinks waiting for me at the Bellagio darling.”… Then jump into my sporty convertible that the valet just pulled up for me…and zoom away, leaving a cloud of dust in their face…yea, so maybe that is a little childish. But there’s nothing more interesting, than a single woman who’s enjoying herself very very much….haha….
Sincerely,
Donna
Steve says
Brilliant !
I will share this
Thanks Joel