The victim wonders why nothing ever goes their way.
The conquerer wonders how lucky they are.
The victim wishes things were different.
The conquerer makes things different.
The victim passes blame and points fingers.
The conquerer accepts blame and moves on.
The victim argues minutiae.
The conquerer understands what matters.
The victim accepts reality and waits for for someone to create their own utopia.
The conquerer rejects reality and chooses to create their own.
The victim whimpers.
The conquerer roars.
The victim complains of unchanging impossibility.
The conquerer relishes the challenge of the impossible.
You are born a conquerer. Fearless and focused on adventure, you’re programmed to do whatever peeked your curiosity. Over time, the world tries to mold you into a victim of sorts via a steady diet of lies and half-truths from people with their own lives:
- It’s not your fault.
- You can’t change it.
- It’s too hard.
- It’s just the way things are.
- It takes too long.
- It’s out of your control.
- Your expectations are too high.
- You’re unreasonable
- Just give up.
- Just accept it.
- It’s impossible.
You’re a conquerer. Victims settle. Conquerers don’t settle.
We’re just a few days away from the New Year. It’s an arbitrary date, but when it starts, a remarkable thing happens. For the next 365 days, you get to choose whether or not you’re going to be a victim or conquerer. Because it’s really a matter of choice. Bad stuff can happen to you (life is hard, bad stuff happens to everyone), but the only way you go from “normal” to “victim” is to choose to be identified as one. A victim suffers in every circumstance and nothing is ever in their control (not even their own actions). It’s simply a consequence of what happened. A conquerer knows there are things that are circumstances that are out of his control, but in spite of them (and sometimes because of them), they keep going, impressing their will upon the world. The last few months, this quote has become my mantra.
To hell with circumstances, I create opportunities – Bruce Lee
Life is an adventure and it’s way too short of one to be a victim. Choose to create opportunities. Choose to be a conquerer.